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I came up with this phrase today but it’s an old, old concept, once you know what to look for.
It comes down to this:
Often we fail by doing what is most important!
Huh? That’s right. We engage in something which is so easy to sell to ourselves as vital, significant and part of the way forward. But it isn’t. In fact it’s a distraction form what we should be doing.
I’m a writer, so this applies especially to me: so long as I am writing, progress is good, right?
Nope.
There are things we all have to do in life. One particular anchor is the next step in our master life plan. That must take priority over all other activity. So, if we let something get in the way of ding it, we are letting ourselves be distracted.
Here’s today’s example. I was talking with a colleague and proudly boasted I wrote 11,000 words yesterday. That’s impossible, of course. I wrote about 4,000 new words and edited/rewrote another 7,000.
Rewriting and editing is still very demanding and, I would guess, about 65% of the effort of fresh, creative writing. So yesterday was a very formidable output indeed. I doubt even 0.5% of writers who have ever lived could equal that (nobody before the age of word processors).
But actually, I hurt myself. Because I didn’t do something even more important…. Continue reading
Emmet Fox (1886-1851) was an Irish émigré with the gift of the gab, as they say. A wonderful, spiritual man and a fine preacher, he regularly addressed audiences of over 5,000 in New York.
I often quote some of his beautiful, healing words about love from Sermon On The Mount.
In one of Fox’s books (Make Your Life Worthwhile, 1942) I found a grand little piece entitled Our Life’s Assignment and I have adapted it here, for my forthcoming book BOOM!
There are certain key tasks in which we may attain at least some degree of mastery in this life, says Fox. Otherwise, we are wasting our precious time on Earth. They are:
To Fox, if we attained even a working ability in these 7 zones, we were successful. It didn’t take mastery on each, just effective action. Moreover, we don’t need to be brilliant on all of them but we must act on each and every assignment. To do less was to be unbalanced. Continue reading
There is one social communication technique which is rarely used and its remarkable benefits and pleasures are only occasionally stumbled upon by chance. That is the question of acknowledgement.
Definition:
When it comes to communication, that irksome phenomenon of open loops returns to trouble us as much as ever.
If we say something to another person, that fact by no means assures that we have been heard—or heard correctly.
So there is a slight mystery; an open loop. Open loops can be very distracting and hold your attention long afterwards.
There is even a scientific term for it: The Zeigarnik Effect, named after Russian psychologist Bluma Zeigarnik. It means, among other things, that the mind will cling on to things that are incomplete and won’t let them go till there is a resolution. Continue reading
I suppose this blog ought to come with a severe health warning! Nevertheless, I share it with you from a position of love and exhilaration.
There have been (many) times in my life when my joy simply bubbled over; it effervesced, like sparkling wine overflowing the bottle when shaken.
Sometimes the thrill has overtaken me while driving the car.
I danced. Carefully, of course, with sufficient attention on the road and other traffic—but I danced at the wheel. Peripheral vision comes to the rescue; peripheral vision is how you drive home safely, without even noticing the stop lights or other vehicles. How you can’t even remember the turns you made because they are on automatic.
It can be enhanced by good “caffeine music”.
I rarely do it with a passenger but one Swedish girlfriend went home with a tale and, apparently, told all her friends. She wasn’t scared she told me, but everything about common sense and social training cried out for her against what should be a crazy thing to do.
Yet she saw the delight! Continue reading
Tough as it is, pain has value and purpose! It is curious that people have found that the boundary between pain and pleasure is very tenuous and at times it may even disappear. Certain sexual activity can render pain a bitter-sweet stimulus and spanking, or the deeper level of so-called sado-masochism, for many individuals, is a source of much gratification, however unlikely it seems to those who do not share the bent.
On similar lines, it is simple to observe, though rarely remarked and discussed, that the movements and facial appearance of an individual at the moment of orgasm are virtually identical to someone in great pain. Even the sounds are indistinguishable from those emitted in agony (how much more appropriate to burst into song, for instance, though the idea seems passing silly).
As a doctor I have long found this pain-mockery fascinating but without any real insight into why it should be so. We are missing an understanding here which may be vital. It could be indicative of some aspect of body consciousness that has yet to be decoded and may be very helpful to the management of pain and disease.
If the dividing line between pain and pleasure is so slight then it may be possible, in the light of fuller knowledge, to push a suffering patient back over the threshold in the more favorable direction, without losing sight or control of the disease process that has heralded itself. Continue reading